I am at a strange time in my life. I have one friend who recently got married (changed her last name and everything). I also have one friend who hasn’t been to class in a week (I envy her ballsiness on this). The way I see it, neither are the best decision at this time. I am happy for my married friend, but she is my age, and I simply can’t see wanting to be locked into something just yet when I don’t even own my own apartment. Skipping class is never the best decision, however, you alway shave the option to actually go next week whereas that marriage is not the easiest thing to undo. For those who are throwing themselves into the dating pool as if they were reaching their expiration date, here are a few things we implore you to experience before you lock yourself into the married life.
#GirlPower Night (AKA they can look but not touch)
The only thing better than dancing with a guy? Dancing with your girls and forgetting that guys even exist. The look in their eyes when they realize that you are a magical creature that they will never possess? Perfection.
Changing Your Look (Because once again: We don’t give a fuck about their opinion)
Stop caring whether or not you are attractive to guys. Dye your hair that crazy color, get those gages/ tattoos/ nose rings. Start wearing inky black eyeliner. Just do it. If you like it, then you needn’t think twice about it.
Seeing Your Favorite Band (Go alone if you must)
It doesn’t need to be a date. If your friends don’t want to go, go alone. If they are your favorite band, then just go and lose yourself in the music.
Traveling The World
Backpack alone, stay in hostels, taste gelato with your friends, ride on the back of a stranger’s motorcycle. Live the dream. Or just study abroad. In other words, do things that make finding a boyfriend seem like a very small and insignificant part of your life.
Enjoy Your Independence
See what it is like to get your own apartment, take yourself to the movies, prove to yourself that you can be alone. If you still want someone? Great, go find someone, but just know that it is not the most important thing in your life right now and your happiness does not depend on finding a relationship.