In a recent interview with Cosmo, Nicki Minaj dished about how she believes that women should demand a climax. And you know what? We couldn’t have said it better ourselves.
“I demand that I climax. I think women should demand that. I have a friend who’s never had an orgasm in her life. In her life! That hurts my heart. It’s cuckoo to me. We always have orgasm interventions where we, like, show her how to do stuff. We’ll straddle each other, saying, ‘You gotta get on him like that and do it like this.’ She says she’s a pleaser. I’m a pleaser, but it’s fifty-fifty.”
Obviously, some of us are pleasers too. And, when you’re really into a guy, you always want to please him. That’s well and good, but sex is a mutually beneficial process (at least most of the time).
But, being a pleaser doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be getting off alongside your partner.
In a perfect world, you and your man (or woman) both like the exact same things in bed and cum together in perfect harmony and the end of a steamy session.
Unfortunately, life isn’t always perfect like that. While there are certain people who just click in bed, there are certain people that don’t. Maybe you’re naturally submissive, but your man likes when you take control. Maybe your dude likes to lick your feet and you can’t imagine why anyone in their right mind would touch your toes after being squeezed in Jeffrey Campbell pumps all weekend. Everyone has their own kinks and fetishes, and sometimes they don’t always match up.
But, do you know what most people have in common? They all want a happy ending (and yes, I’m referring to the type you get at a Japanese massage parlor, not the type in Disney movies).
Moreover, your partner wants to get you off too. Sure, guys can be dicks, and think with their dicks too. But, the majority of dudes still want to know that they’re doing things right in bed and making you scream.
So, if he’s not making you scream, tell him how to. Or better yet, show him?
Don’t forget: A wise woman once said
“He toss my salad like his name Romaine,
And when we done, I make him buy me Balmain.”